Tuesday, August 28, 2012

oh link ups... why so many rules?

Let me start off this post by saying that I enjoy link ups, I do them pretty regularly myself. I think they are great ways for bloggers to connect and get to know one another, that's the fun part about blogging! Right?

The problem I'm noticing is that link ups are being hosted by more and more people and the "rules" are getting a bit ridiculous. It's really great when ten people want to host a link up, but demanding that participants follow all the hosts via GFC, plus additional co-hosts too, and now some are demanding that you also follow all them via Twitter, Bloglovin', Instagram, Facebook, etc. too. Ugh, when does it end?

Not to be a jerk, but I think by forcing people to follow blog they may not care about is completely distracting from the blogging experience and the purpose of a link up. Sure, ask that people follow the main host/s (because really, one or two people crafted the idea, let's be real) but telling anyone that they have to follow, or that they must follow via every social network? Why? It's such overkill! I don't even always follow my real life friends on all social networks. So, I know I don't want to follow a bunch of blogs that I genuinely do not care about their content. That's not meant to be offensive either! Ex: If you're not a DIY-er, why would you follow 20 DIY blogs? The answer is, you probably wouldn't.

Typically if I really want to participate in a link up and I think the host is going to be a stickler for the "rules" I go in, follow everyone, and if their content isn't something I like after a few days I unfollow. (I'm thinking from here on out I may just avoid those link ups altogether though...)

For link ups that are more lenient, asking that you please check out hosts, I always do, but again, if it's not content I care about I don't follow. I don't think that's being harsh. I don't expect anyone to follow my blog if they aren't interested in what I'm posting about, so why should I clog my feed with stuff I don't care to read? Who wants to scroll through hundreds of posts on their reader that they are being told they have to follow in order to participate in something that should be community building? That's not building anything, it creates frustration and annoyance. It's kind of like when people visit your page, tell you they love you blog, and then end their comment with a "follow me back!" No one owes it to anyone else to follow, ever.

In addition to that - I use my Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram to connect with people that I know in real life. I don't want my Instagram feed full of images again, that I don't care to see, or of people I've never met. Along the same lines, I don't like my feeds on Twitter and Facebook full of only blogging stuff. I actually do enjoy interacting with people I know and not just reading about giveaways, or someone's latest posts, etc. I'm not bashing anyone that specifically uses social media for those things, I even follow some strictly blog Twitters, but I am saying that I don't use them in that way and I refuse to start now. I know I'm not alone.

I guess my point here is that some link ups are getting to be a little too over the top and need to calm it down with their list of rules for participants. I know, some of you are thinking - "Well, just don't do them!" You're right, I probably won't, but if you've harbored any of these same feelings at least you know you're not alone! Blogging is supposed to be fun, not a popularity contest! Plus, no one likes being told what they have to do. We should all be able to link up, be friendly, and choose which blogs we would enjoy following, and not be told that we have to follow anyone (host/s exception), I think that sounds reasonable.

*My post isn't directed at any one in particular. I've just noticed this among many recent link ups.


  1. You took the words out of my mouth! I love link ups but love them for the reason that I can find new blogs that I LIKE to read. I hate being forced to follow someone. I wouldn't like for someone to follow me if my blog was not their style, either! Ya know?

    xo, jill from www.classywithakick.com

  2. I actually found you through a blog hop, too. I don't generally follow people on GFC unless I'm interested--that's more of my personal reading. But, I will generally follow people on facebook or Twitter, because I use a separate account for blogging, than my personal account. I don't follow my real friends on all of these networks, either, so I never follow anyone on Pinterest, Instagram etc unless I really like their content.

    I agree with you that it should not be mandatory to follow anyone. Blog hops are complicated :/ I haven't really liked them that much, so far.
    Daydreaming Realist

  3. I totally agree, I love blog hops because they are a chance to find new blogs, but I don't like being told to follow them.. I had a lady who reviews cosmetics not even available in my country and another who just alerts you to coupons in the midwest in my news feed for months before I realised it wasn't nasty to get rid of them but I simply had no interest in what they were writing about, I live in Australia, British make up and Indiana groceries are never going to be relevant to my life.
    So I stopped joining bloghops where following is mandatory and thought I was the only one! Glad to know I'm not alone.

  4. Could not agree with you more! I usually click through and follow those that I feel I click with. For a giveaway, I get it it, it's entries. But for a link-up? Yeah, shouldn't be mandatory. And more often than not, I just won't participate.

  5. I agree--telling people or 'forcing' them to follow certain blogs for one reason or another really doesn't seem to be in anyone's best interests. After all, do those blogs want a bunch of followers that don't even read their blogs? It seems useless to everyone involved, from my point of view!

  6. I am realizing that the idea of "finding new blogs" is a guise for "getting more followers". It feels dirty, in a way. LOL I don't want 1000 followers if those followers only clicked "follow" because they had to. I'm personally only going to be participating in link-ups that motivate me to create thoughtful posts about something I would genuinely blog about.
    Oh and there's nothing better than working very hard on a post just to have someone comment with "Following from the hop. Please follow back!" ugh, really?
    On the bright side...I found your blog via linkup...so I can't complain too much :)

  7. just found your blog when googling for info on linkups... couldn't agree more! the only 'rules' should be staying within the given topic, and linking to the post-specific url rather than just your blog url, right? I personally get kind of turned off by bloggers making all these following demands.

    your blog has such a nice, clean layout!


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